Webinars, Interviews & TV

The ones marked with ** are well worth listening to.

Date: 30th August 2021: Video: 15 mins
Channel 4 Documentaries: Let’s Talk: Child Sexual Abuse – Is There A Cure?
Jonny Pelham meets the co-founder of StopSO, Juliet Grayson. Could therapy result in fewer children being abused?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Itx3_3N6trg&t=3s&ab_channel=Channel4Documentaries

To watch the full series of 3 short films go to https://www.channel4.com/programmes/lets-talk-child-sexual-abuse/on-demand/72248-003

** Date: 1st August 2017: Phone In
A StopSO client who contacted James O’Brian on LBC Radio
James O’Brien labelled this brave call from a man who is attracted to young girls “one of the most important I’ve ever taken”.  As James was discussing whether child sex dolls could stop paedophiles abusing a youngster, John called up with one of the most remarkable stories ever heard on LBC.
He revealed that he is attracted to young girls, but has never acted on it.
John said: “I will look and I will think, but then I will stop because I have a strong set of morals. I have very strong self-control.  It’s ruined my life. I hate myself.  My therapist is concerned that I’m a danger to myself because of my self-hatred.”
“I find your courage quite breathtaking.”
https://www.lbc.co.uk/radio/presenters/james-obrien/the-brave-call-to-james-attracted-to-young-girls/disgusted than I am

Date: 5 June 2019
Juliet spoke with Iain Dale of LBC  about chemical castration after Alabama have passed a law that sex offenders have to undergo, and pay for, chemical castration as a condition of parole.

The Experience of a Family Member of  a Sex Offender. “I am more than my husbands crime”

American actress Maddie Corman thought she and her television director husband, Jace Alexander, had a normal, happy life together. They’d been married for more than a decade and had three children. But in 2015, everything came crashing down when Jace was charged with a crime many people would find unforgivable. He was convicted of accessing and distributing child abuse images. Maddie tells Outlook’s Emily Webb about her painful and complicated decision to stay with him. Maddie’s play about her experience, Accidentally Brave, is now playing in New York City.  From BBC World Service broadcast on 2019 May 22

**Date: 1 May 2019
At the StopSO 2nd Annual Conference Insights Into Sex Offending, Facing the Reality.  Juliet Grayson, Chair & Co-founder Stopso UK
Here are the links to a series of talks on that day at the 2019 STOPSO Conference:

Chief Constable Simon Bailey, National Police Chiefs Lead on Child Sexual Abuse and Patron of StopSO  https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/342048568/726e8105d7   

Juliet Grayson,  Chair and Co-founder of StopSO https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/337505909/171773f570

A Personal Cameo: From a family member of a sex offender https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335207980/0927451b2e

Klaus Beier from the Prevention Project Dunkelfeld in Germany https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335222566/808b53e569

James Cantor, Neuroscientist and Psychologist  https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335250429/f1c291f30b

William Ayot Poem and Closing Words from Dana Braithwaite https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335263039/f26816fb3e 

Q and A – how can we get the word out about StopSO? https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335265140/e6ccaa7661

Are StopSO services offered by police?  https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335265490/357ac8fd01

What more could be done to help the families of perpetrators?

https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335265760/0f985a91b9

Is there a lower age limit to access StopSO services

https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335266045/d2fcbd674b

Does stopso offer any further help to perpetrators such as support with benefits

 https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335266585/1816a3e250

Is there supervision available for therapists and professionals  

https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335267764/e5394e26ec

How do you feel about the term pedophile  

https://vimeo.com/user9079000/review/335268256/060bb06833

** Date: 4 April 2019
Juliet with John Wilson at Online Events: Insights into Sex Offending: Facing the Reality

The Young Paedophiles Who Say They Don’t Abuse Children

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-41213657

Date: 4 March 2019: Radio Programme
Jonathan Vernon Smith BBC Three Counties Radio talking to Juliet Grayson about Michael Jackson, in the light of people coming forward and saying that they have been sexually abused by him as children.  Juliet raises the importance of making it acceptable for people to admit to a sexual attraction to help so that they can get therapeutic help from StopSO to prevent them from acting on their attraction. Juliet mentions that 1417 new children are sexually abused every day in the UK #1417stopso.  She also discusses the need for funding for the 20% who want help but cannot afford to pay for their own therapy, including a 14 year old who asked for help for a sexual attraction to 2-8 year olds.

Date: 24 January 2019: Radio Programme (2 minute extract)
Nick Ferarri from LBC talking to Juliet Grayson: A 2 minute soundbite about what StopSO does, including a plan for an early release option

Date: 15 Oct 2018: Radio Programme
Sheila Fogarty LBC Radio talking to Juliet Grayson about C5 Police forms, leading to info showing up on DBS checks.

** Date: 5 October 2018
Juliet Grayson on BBC Breakfast TV
https://sexuallyinappropriatebehaviour.org/breakfast/

Breakfast

** Date July 2018
One hour podcast on Preventing Child Abuse with Juliet Grayson and Danny Whittaker
https://mowe.blog/podcast/preventing-child-abuse/

 
Date: 24 April 2018: Online Article and Radio Programme
LBC Radio presented by Shelagh Fogarty “The “Non-Acting Paedophile” Fighting His Attraction To Children”

 

** Date April 2018 Shelagh Fogarty and LBC Radio
For four days LBC focused on the issue of child sexual abuse.  Sheila interviewed a variety of people on the topic.  Day 1 was an interveiw with Chief Constable Simon Bailey, National Policing Lead for Child Protection Abuse Investigation

Day 2 was with David who is a StopSO client, a former internet offender and an active advocate for progressive change

Day 3 was with Juliet Grayson, Chair and Co-founder of StopSO

Day 4 was with James Cantor, Psychologist and Neuro-Scientist

Date: 08 February  2018: Radio Programme
Juliet was on the Jonathon Vernon-Smith Show on BBC 3 Counties Radio
10 mins in total
The discussion started about John Venables who has been sentenced for child abuse images.  Juliet starts after 1 minute 20 seconds.  Juliet talks about sexual attraction being a continuum, with sexual attraction to adults at one end, and a sexual attraction to children at the other end. Juliet refers to research that shows that sexual attraction to children is formed in the 4th or 5th month of pregnancy.  Juliet refers to the number of children who will be sexually abused in the UK today,  saying that it will  be 1,183 today, and 1,183 tomorrow, every day another 1,183.  Since it costs £65,000 to imprison one person and less than £2000 to give preventative therapy then she advises offering therapy.  She tells us that 72% of people who have committed a sexual offence know they have a problem with their sexual thinking or behaviour by the time they are 25 years old, (and 11% know by the time they are 10 years old).  Yet less than 3% of people coming to StopSO are under 25 years old.  She advises accessing college students [with a sexual attraction to children] and funding their therapy to reduce sexual offending.  20% of  the people coming to StopSO cannot afford to pay for their own therapy, and StopSO needs help to fund their therapy so that more children will be protected.

Date: 7 February  2018: Radio Programme
Shelagh Fogarty LBC radio.
Juliet starts 1.19 minutes in.  Juliet talks about 1,183 children every day who will be sexually abused.  She tells us that 80% of the people asking for help to stop will fund their own therapy.  StopSO is are asking for funding so that next year they plant less, not more, of the toy windmills.  Shelagh asks why this strange attraction exists.  Juliet explains that some people are born with a sexual attraction to children. There are men who have looked at legal pornography, and find it harder to get aroused as they age, and start to escalate their porn use.  Treatment can help these people.  Juliet also talks about people who have had a traumatic event (often around the age of 8 or 9) that seems to have turned their sexual attraction towards children, and through therapy they heal the trauma, and their sexual attraction reverts to adults. She mentions that some people choose to take medication to reduce their sex drive to avoid harming a child.

Date: 25 January  2018: Radio
Shelagh Fogarty Audio Clip is 12 minutes 15 seconds long
Topics covered include
The need for funding for the 20% who cannnot afford to pay for their therapy, that sex offenders who get a community service order or are in prison for less than a year are unlikely to get treatment, that there is a continuum of attraction – at one end people are attracted to adults and at the other end they are attracted to children – and there are some people who are 3/4 of the way along that continuum, we are not saying we can cure paedophilia, 51% of sex offenders know they have a problem with their sexual behaviour or thinking by the time they are 16 years old (and 72% by the time they are 25), StopSO needs funding to pay for people who need help as a way of protecting our children and preventing sexual abuse of all kinds.

Date: 16 January  2018: Radio
Nick Ferrari (LLBC radio) interviews Juliet, and she talks about a voyeur who, after therapy, has completely stopped acting out.

Date: 7 January  2018: Radio
Andrew Castle (LBC Radio) interviews Juliet, triggered by the John Warboys case.  Juliet starts at 9.53.  She talks about what StopSO does, and the fact that over 1200 people came forward to StopSO, asking for help, in 2017.  Can a sex offender change?

**Date: 21 June 2017: BBC Local Radio Programme

BBC Radio Coventry and Warwickshire: The Vic Minnett show, ran a 1 1/4 hour programme about paedophiles, including a 20 minute recording with one of the people that a StopSO therapist worked with, and subsidised, who was struggling with inappropriate thoughts of children.   Then Juliet Grayson, chair of StopSO comments.  There was a part where Juliet reports that the re-offending rates are very low for sex offenders (for theft the re-offending rate is 42% within a year, for a sexual offender to commit a further sexual offence is 2-3% within two years).  Vic said, “Is that because the prison system works?”  What Juliet could have said at that point, is that the vast majority of sex offenders do not get put into prison. If we look at the number of people convicted for committing a sexual offence, and compare that to the number of victims of a sexual offence (based on figures from the Crime Survey for England and Wales) that gives us a more realistic sense.  For sexual offending, 1 person is convicted for every 100 people who have been a victim of a sexual offence.  1%.  (NB If you include internet offences then it is a much lower percentage that is convicted compared to those committing offences). So relying on prison is not a good solution to this problem!
To hear the show click below (1 hr 15 mins).  This is divided into 7 parts, which are sequential.

**Date 2nd March 2017: Radio
BBC Radio Gloucestershire.  Gemma Dunsten introduces a StopSO therapist who lives in Gloucestershire, who talks about the importance of prevention.  Then Juliet Grayson talks to Mark Cummings about StopSO’s work in Gloucestershire.  Twenty-eight people in the West and 11 from Gloucestershire, have sought help from StopSO to remain (or become) law abiding. 9 minutes

Date: 28th February 2017: Radio
LBC Radio
Juliet Grayson talks to NIck Ferrari about giving therapy to sex offenders, and the difference between a paedophile and a child molester. StopSO offers paedophiles help. 10 minutes

 

**Date: 28th February 2017: Television
BBC 2 Victoria Derbyshire
Juliet Grayson talks to Victoria Derbyshire about Chief Constable Simon Bailey’s comment that people who view indecent images of children should not be prosecuted unless they pose a physical threat to children.  Victoria’s other guest is Nigel O’Mara, a survivor of sexual abuse 8 minutes
click here to watch The interview starts approx 1 hour 21 mins into the programme.  It is available until March 27th 2017

**Date: 28th February 2017: Radio
Radio 5 live
Juliet Grayson & Jim Gamble, former chief executive of CEOP (Child Exploitation and Online Protection) on the Phil Williams show on BBC Radio 5 Live.  They discuss offering paedophile help to remain law abiding. 21 minutes.  In 3 sequential parts.

**Date: 28th February 2017: Radio
BBC Radio 4 PM Programme
5 minute conversation with Eddie Mair that describes how StopSO works, and talks about the fact that this could be your son or your daughter.  <5 minutes

*Date: 28th February 2017: Radio & Phone In
BBC Three Counties Radio
Juliet Grayson tells Jonathan Vernon-Smith that there is not space to lock up all the child molesters – since the National Crime Agency said there are 750,000 men in Britain with a sexual attraction to children, and only 86,000 people in prison in total (including murderers, robbers and sexual offenders etc). StopSO can help paedophiles to remain law abiding. 17 minutes

 
***Date: 17th Feb 2017: TV (Online) and Article

Article and online video: RTV    UK Charity Preventing Paedophiles From Abusing Facing Closure
Click here to view the article and video, or click here just to watch the 4 minute video

Date: 13 October 2016: Radio
Radio 5 Live: Five Live Breakfast: Juliet Grayson Chair of StopSO responds to the comment by Simon Bailey, Chief Constable of Norfolk Police who says there are at least 100,000 people who regularly view obscene images of children, and the police can no longer cope with this “We don’t have the capacity to be able to target those who pose a lesser threat.”  Less than 5 minutes.

Date: 16 February 2016: Radio
Radio Gloucestershire: Juliet Grayson talking: approx 7 minutes.

** Date: 15th November 2015: Radio
BBC Radio Wales: Eye on Wales: Treating Paedophiles programme includes StopSO and interview with Juliet Grayson. 30 minutes

Date: 14th November 2015: Radio
BBC Radio Wales: Good Morning Wales: piece about the issue of child sexual offending, StopSO and the need for more finances: (less than 5 minutes).

Then later the same morning, a live interview with Juliet Grayson click here to listen (7 1/2minutes)

Date: 13th October 2015: Radio
Radio 5 live daily 33 minute interview with Adrian Chiles Adrian Chiles mentions the ground breaking video campaign that has been launched. He discussed this with BBC Correspondent Angus Crawford. Later he talks to a non offending paedophile from USA, abused aged 7, who realised aged 12 that he had a different attraction to others. At first he tried to deny he was a paedophile. Now he has a clear distinction between his desires and his actions. Then he talks to Dr Sarah Goode from StopSO and Jim Gamble, former head of Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre.
Click here to listen. (33 minutes)

Date: 12th October 2015: Radio
A mother was concerned about the behaviour of a man in a public swimming pool Vic Minnett talking to Dr Sarah Goode, acting CEO of StopSO on BBC Radio Coventry and Warwickshire.
Click here to listen. (14 minutes)

Date: 12th October 2015: Radio
Karen Patterson talks to Dr Sarah Goode about the Stop It Now video campaign. BBC Radio Ulster. Click here to listen (6 minutes)

Date: 21st July 2015: Radio
Juliet Grayson, Chair of StopSO, gives an interview to Radio Ireland – programme Today with Sean O’Rourke about Paedophilia. The definition of paedophilia is a sexual attraction to children under the age of 12. Paedophilia was and is regarded as a psychiatric disorder, but nowadays researchers and psychiatrists distinguish between paedophiles who don’t act on their fantasies and those who do. The latest approaches to treating paedophiles emphasize preventive therapy, encouraging potential offenders to come forward. One of the most innovative is Germany’s Dunkelfeld project. Berlin-based BBC journalist Damien McGuiness joined Keelin Shanley to discuss Dunkelfeld and also joining Keeling was psychotherapist Juliet Grayson, the co-founder of STOPSO, the Specialist Treatment Organisation of the Prevention of Sexual Offending in the UK. 17 minutes

 

** Date: July 18th 2015: Radio
Juliet Grayson, Chair of StopSO gives an interview to BBC Radio 4’s programme IPM which includes the issue of the proposed mandatory reporting, suggesting that therapists should be excluded from mandatory reporting, as a child protection issue. She says it is important to ensure that paedophiles and people (e.g. non offending paedophiles) who are concerned about sexual thoughts about children, feel that they can seek counselling to help them manage their urges, so that they avoid acting out. Juliet Grayson states this is a crime prevention issue. ‘If I report too readily the risk is that they’re not going to come to therapy.’ To report or not to report? A listener’s dilemma when counselling paedophiles. Presented by Jennifer Tracey on 18 July 2015 Click 12 minutes

** Date: July 13th 2015: Radio
A StopSO client who received subsidised therapy was very grateful for the help given. He decided to call BBC Radio 4’s programme PM to talk about the benefits he had gained. They talk about Prevention Project Dunkelfeld, the German initiative for working with Paedophiles 13th July 2015 PM Radio 4.  Length <14 minutes

Podcast: Hunting Warhead  CBC Radio

Hunting Warhead

How do you take down a criminal network that’s hidden in the shadows? How do you rescue child abuse victims who could be anywhere in the world? Hunting Warhead follows the journalists and police on a global mission to expose the darkest corners of the internet. What they discover shocks them. Host Daemon Fairless tracks down the investigators, survivors and criminals themselves. A co-production of CBC Podcasts and the Norwegian newspaper.
https://www.cbc.ca/radio/podcasts/hunting-warhead/

Mysteries of the Mind: Video of James Cantor: The Pedophiles Brain

Dr. James Cantor talks about what brain research is telling us about the minds of the most abhorred people in society, pedophiles, and what he’s learned that might help protect more children from them.