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Tackling child sexual abuse (4/5): Therapists wanted!

In the fourth in a series of five blogs, Juliet Grayson discussed the StopSO method and provided advice for those who want to apply it. The main focus of StopSO UK’s work with sexual offenders and many of their families is “Stopping the First Offence.” Additionally, it was stressed how crucial it is for therapists to be ready in order to respond appropriately when someone confides in them about having troubling sexual thoughts. This will help prevent clients from hastily terminating their sessions after noticing a shocked look on the therapist’s face, a therapist who stutters, or some other “judgemental” reaction. Clients frequently tell StopSO that they withdrew after they witnessed a therapist reacting in this way that they didn’t approve. Their courage to seek assistance from a different therapist took years to acquire.

https://www.pesi.co.uk/Blog/2019/November/Tackling-Child-Sexual-Abuse-(4-5)-Therapists-wante

Tackling child sexual abuse (3/5): Harmful sexual behavior in children

Juliet Grayson addresses the challenging problems facing children who commit a sexual offence in the third of five blogs. There is an abuser for every victimized child. It is possible for the abuser to be a kid. During the curious years of childhood, it is crucial to think about what constitutes hazardous sexual activity and to evaluate the warning signs that may point to the need for professional assistance. HSB is a dual notion that can be both detrimental to the child perpetrator and hurtful to the victim. HSBs are typically recognized as behaviors or conversations that are inappropriate for the person’s age or developmental stage and may involve one child dominating the other due to superior intelligence or physical prowess. What does this mean for an adult then? figuring out what is good and what is not, and acting quickly, such as seeking early treatment, because children are the future’s adults, and it is our duty to give them effective therapeutic support to prevent them from turning into serial offenders.

https://www.pesi.co.uk/Blog/2019/November/Tackling-Child-Sexual-Abuse-(3-5)-Harmful-Sexual-B

Tackling child sexual abuse (2/5): The internet

In the second of five blogs on her work, Juliet Grayson talks about how the internet may be used to offend. Online offences are on the rise, and they can take many different forms, such as talking to children or viewing child pornography. The latter is divided into two groups. First, there are the fantasy-driven people who seek climax from online engagement and might share images. Some will tempt the child to engage in sexual activity as they watch on a webcam. On the other side, there are others who are contact-driven and want to have a sexual encounter offline. However, there might be some overlap. Making arrangements, for instance, enhances the meeting’s imagination. While most people will proceed once a meeting has been scheduled, some will schedule these meetings with no intention of moving through.

https://www.pesi.co.uk/Blog/2019/November/Tackling-Child-Sexual-Abuse-(2-5)-The-Internet

Tackling child sexual abuse (1/5): Paedosexuality

The focus of this article is one of Juliet Grayson’s five blogs. It had a strong concentration on sexual offending and encouraged therapists to engage with client groups to prevent the first offence rather than waiting until a crime is committed. Additionally, the terms “paedophile” and “child molester” are frequently misused, which discourages people from getting help out of fear of being misunderstood. Child molestation is not considered paedophilia; rather, it refers to someone who is attracted to children. On the other hand, not all child abusers are MAPs or paedophiles. The term “paedosexual” might be used to lessen the stigma attached to the term “paedophilia”. Paedosexuality is not a choice; the decision is whether or not to engage in it. So, in order to reduce the sexual abuse of children, a safe place for clients to come for therapy is important.

https://www.pesi.co.uk/Blog/2019/November/Tackling-Child-Sexual-Abuse-(1-5)-Paedosexuality

Surviving Paedophilia

It discusses a man’s paedophilic past and his complete recovery from paedophilia with the intention of inspiring many people. It describes how he was drawn to children and could not help admiring them, but not adults. Last but not least, he completely overcame his paedophilia (at the Portman Facility, the only psychoanalytic NHS clinic at the time that provided that curative treatment), and he will always be grateful for the freedom that the NHS treatment afforded him.

My doctor mistook my OCD for paedophilia

While there are many various forms of abuse, the focus of this essay was on emotional abuse. This was evident when few men who sought assistance for their intrusive thoughts were misconstrued and considered to be peadophiles. This led to a great deal of distress and anxiety, job loss, family and relationship breakdowns, and, in some cases, suicide.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/a534c571-035c-4423-9dd9-33c8d425f5f3

My life has been enriched since challenging my SOPO

It tells the personal account of a person whose criminal history stemmed from a string of incidents that caused him to petition to have his SOPO cancelled.  He was convicted of a downloading offence for which he received both an indeterminate SOPO and a community sentence. He attempted to reconstruct his life in the years that followed his sentence, but he was up against a lot of obstacles. Due to these difficulties, he made the decision to petition to have his SOPO cancelled and eventually was successful. Overall, he shows how SOPOs might be overreacting, overly emotional, and challenged, but giving up should never be an option.

http://www.the-record.org.uk/unlock-people-with-convictions/my-life-has-been-enriched-since-challenging-my-sopo/

Internet safety guide for people with autism spectrum disorder

People who have been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) perceive the world differently from those who do not. As a result, individuals with ASD may use the internet in a different way than normal users and as a matter of fact, may face various online dangers. This article is focused on a guidebook that is designed to teach autistic people (and their parents, family, friends, and carers) about the hazards associated with using the internet and how to reduce those risks. However, it also highlights the advantages to demonstrate how internet use and enjoyment are safe and secure for autistic persons.

https://www.wizcase.com/blog/internet-safety-guide-for-people-with-autism-spectrum-disorders/#8%C2%A0%20%3Cbr%3E

Protecting your child on the Internet: A guide for parents

It discusses the preventative measures that may be taken to safeguard kids from harmful information, cyberbullying, mobile obsession, and sexual predators. Some of these safety measures include using smart TVs and streaming material, keeping an eye on kids’ behavior, Install an ad blocker so that children won’t be exposed to misleading advertising that tempts them to download harmful software.

https://www.vpnmentor.com/blog/the-ultimate-parent-guide-for-child-internet/

Banning conversion therapy consultation

It discussed some warnings of unintended harms (the idea that changing one’s sexual orientation is universally undesirable, as well as the idea that gender ascription and sexual orientation are innate) in the consultation’s formulation as a result of its “blindness” to the issue of paedophilia. It also presented some suggested modifications like government acknowledging that sexual orientation is not innate, or is only partially innate, as well as government acknowledging the distinction between gender and sexual orientation.