Self help for people who’ve committed sexual offences

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“What we have in prisons are the most traumatised people in our society” Gabor Mate

Unaddressed childhood trauma changes how we respond to the world and when triggered, we make choices that sometimes have devastating consequences including domestic violence, addiction, murder and prison.
There is an ACE’s (Adverse Chidlhood Experiences) Quiz on their website. 

Compassion Prison Project


 

Getting a DBS Check

Apply for a BASIC DBS check directly to through the government website
https://www.gov.uk/request-copy-criminal-record
N.B. Self-employed people can’t apply for ENHANCED DBS check themselves and need to use a third party.  This is from the government website: If you’re self-employed, an organisation you’re working with can get a standard, enhanced or enhanced with barred lists check for you, where the role is eligible.  Individuals needing an enhanced DBS have to use an umbrella organisation – click here to access the government info on this
Government Recommended Organisations that will help you https://www.gov.uk/guidance/responsible-organisations
These organisations will do it for you and you pay for that service
https://www.sonographersmedical.com/dbs-crb-checks/
https://dbs-ub-directory.homeoffice.gov.uk/org-page.php?id=636
https://crbdirect.org.uk/
MAYFLOWER have been used by a few people
FOR THOSE WHO NEED THIS INFO: Relevant Rehabilitation periods
https://crbdirect.org.uk/faqs/

To find out what information about you is on the Police National Computer

You have the right to access to information held about you on the Police National Computer (PNC).  Information provided under subject access is for personal use only and cannot be used for other purposes. To know what the police hold about you you make an application through this page https://www.acro.police.uk/Subject-access


Twenty minute self-compassion meditation by Kristin Neff

The Self-Compassion Break – This is a short guided meditation that can be done in a moment of difficulty or struggle, or simply throughout the day to stay grounded and compassionate. It brings you all the benefits of self-compassion in only 5 minutes and is easy to learn how to do without guidance. The core phrases of this practice are: This is a moment of suffering (Mindfulness). Suffering is part of life (Common humanity). May I be kind to myself in this moment (Self-kindness). May I give myself the compassion I need (Self-compassion).
http://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/self-compassion.break_.mp3

Sentencing Guidelines for Sexual Offences UK

https://www.sentencingcouncil.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/Sexual-offences-definitive-guideline-Web.pdf

Information About Prison Regimes

To restrict access to Porn Sites

There is a programme called Covenant Eyes to help people quit porn.  https://www.covenanteyes.com/   .  You can agree to a list of the sites you visit being sent to a designated person – partner/person/friend who can keep an eye on your web usage with you.  It seemed a useful deterrent.  The programme monitors and analyses what you look at on the screen and then flags concerns to the designated person.

Suggested Packing List for Prison

Suggested prison packing list   Thanks to the person who put this together, it was on another website. The person said, “He wasn’t allowed everything at his first high category prison, but most of it was accepted when he moved to a lower category.  It was winter when he went in and he didn’t take in any summer clothes.  After the first month he was not allowed to have clothes sent in and for anything missing he either had to wear prison clothes or order through the canteen system.”  This may vary from prison to prison.

Reoffending Rates for People who Have Committed Sexual Offences are Very Low

This is a quote from an email sent to Juliet Grayson by Karl Hanson who has spent a lifetime researching this.  He said:  “Out of 100 individuals released from a sexual offence conviction in the UK, between 2 and 3 will be reconvicted for another sexual offence within 2 years, and 97 to 98 will not.  If the follow-up period is extended to 4 years, an additional 2 to 3 individuals will be reconvicted, bringing the 4 year sexual reconviction rate to 5.5%.  In other words, if 100 individuals with a sexual offence conviction are followed for 4 years, 5 or 6 of these will be reconvicted for a sexual offence and 94 to 95 will not. These figures are from the attached article (p. 454).These figures are similar to rates found in other countries during the past 10 – 15 years”  This is validated by the2010 An examination of the Risk Matrix Study.    Juliet notes more about reoffending rates here Reoffending Rates for Sex Offenders

Useful Information from the College of Policing: Major investigations and public prosecutions – risk

Risk and associated investigations

Reassessing Risk: Release from the Sex Offender Label

In relation to risk over time, Karl Hanson reported his findings from an extensive literature review of studies looking at a total of 543,204 sex offenders.  This showed that for every five years that a sex offender remains offence-free in the community, the likelihood of them re-offending is cut by half.  Hanson believes this is due to the following factors: effective psychological interventions that reduce risk, the effects of physical ageing such as a decline in testosterone levels, increasing rewards from living a prosocial life, success at work, rewarding leisure activities, decent friends, caring intimate partner, and learning to become interdependent (rather than being isolated as many are when younger).  So if risk is 20% when you leave prison, if you make it for 5 years you are 10% risk, and if you make it for 10 year you are a 5% risk.  Karl Hanson: Reassessing Risk 2017  Reasessing risk hanson2017_Release from sex offender label

OCD Obsessive Compulsive Thoughts

https://www.intrusivethoughts.org/

The Internet Porn Tree: A poem by someone who struggled

http://sexuallyinappropriatebehaviour.org/poems/

ONLINE COURSE FOR MINOR ATTRACTED PEOPLE

Help Wanted is an online course to provide help to individuals attracted to younger children.  Our goal is to give you some tools to support your commitment to living a safe, healthy, non-offending life.
https://www.helpwantedprevention.org/

 

Self help guides

http://www.selfhelpguides.ntw.nhs.uk/penninecare/
INCLUDING FOR PEOPLE IN PRISON
Abuse
Alcohol and you
Anxiety
Anxiety for people in prison
Bereavement
Controlling Anger
Depression
Depression and low mood
Depression and low mood for people in prison
Domestic violence
Eating disorders
Food for thought
Health anxiety
Hearing voices
Obsessions and compulsions
Panic
Post traumatic stress
Post traumatic stress for people in prison
Postnatal depression
Self-harm
Shyness and social anxiety
Sleeping problems
Stress

More self help guides here
https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself

Mental Health and Wellbeing
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/

StopSO

The Specialist Treatment Organisation for Perpetrators and Survivors of Sexual Offences has over 150 therapists across the UK who are trained to work with peopel who are struggling with sexually inappropriate thoughts or behaviours.  There is also therapy for family members of (potential or actual) offenders.  There is an online helpline for family members of sexual offenders.  StopSO offers training to therapists about how to work with sexually harmful behaviour.  There is an online support group for professionals who work in the field of sexual offending.  StopSO offers therapy for survivors of sexual abuse.   Juliet Grayson was a co-founder of StopSO and Chair from 2012-2019.

Safer Society Free Podcasts

Free Podcasts: Topics such as “Applying the Good Lives Model with Teenagers”, “Women Who Sexually Abuse”, “Vicarious Restorative Justice with Sexual Abusers”, “Promoting Social Skills in Adolescents”, “The #MeToo Movement”, “Family Therapy with Sex Offenders”, “Helping Families of Children and Teens with Sexual Behaviour Problems”, “Healthy Sexuality and Teens with Intellectual Disabilities”, “Applying the Risk Need Responsivity Principles in Practice”, “Motivation, The Good Lives Model, and Trauma Informed-Care”, “Adolescent Treatment Guidelines”, “ROSAC Risk Assessment”, and “Trauma Informed Care”.

Troubled Desire

TROUBLED DESIRE offers Online-Self-Management for people who feel attracted to children and early adolescents and don’t have the chance to get in real contact with therapists.

https://www.troubled-desire.com/en/

Seeking help for illegal online sexual behaviour?

Help and information and support for people wanting to change their illegal online sexual behaviour involving children, including those who view sexual images of children, and those who communicate sexually with children. We also support their families and friends, helping people cope with difficult emotions, and the professionals who work with these groups.
https://get-help.stopitnow.org.uk/

StopItNow! USA Advice Column

https://stopitnow.org/help-guidance/advice-column

A comprehensive guide to low self esteem including resources

Get Help: CBT (this is not specifically about sexual offending).

But is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/

 

Modifying a  SOPO?

 

Treating Pedophilia

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast (podcast)
Click here to listen

You may call me Emma. I am a woman, approximately 30 years old, and I am a pedophile. Yes, really.

Click here to read article

For those dealing with issues around pornography

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

For Virtuous Paedophiles: Virped

Our website is intended to reduce the stigma attached to pedophilia by letting people know that a substantial number of pedophiles DO NOT molest children, and to provide peer support and information about available resources to help virtuous pedophiles remain law-abiding, and lead happy, productive lives.
https://www.virped.org/

Kairos Changement Programme: A Treatment Programme for sex and porn addiction online – on demand

The Kairos Changement Programme has been instrumental in helping hundreds of people, just like you, recover from sex and porn addiction. Consequently, based on our clients experience, we recognise the need to access the programme wherever and whenever. As a result we are proud to present the world’s first fully comprehensive Webinar Series…from £295 (NB Juliet get’s nothing from recommending this programme. She has not seen or tried out the actual programme, but knows the man who designed it who is a good guy!)

https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/

B4UAct

For Minor Attracted People.   B4U-ACT was established in 2003 as a 501(c)(3) organization with the following purposes:
-To publicly promote services and resources for self-identified individuals (adults and adolescents) who are sexually attracted to children and seek such assistance
-To educate mental health providers regarding the approaches helpful for such individuals
-To develop a pool of providers who agree to serve these individuals and abide by B4U-ACT’s Principles and Perspectives of Practice
-To educate the public regarding issues faced by these individuals
https://www.b4uact.org/

MoodGYM:  this is no longer a free of charge service

MoodGYM is an interactive program designed to help you:
– Identify whether you are having problems with emotions like anxiety and depression,
– Learn skills that can help you cope with these emotions.

MoodGYM is based on two programs which are successful in preventing and treating depression and anxiety. These are: Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and Interpersonal Therapy.

It is an Australian government site but open to the whole world. You have to register. It came highly reccommended from some one who had struggled with sexually inappropriate behaviour.

Self deception, self delusion and denial

Here is a really useful and interesting series of articles by James Lawley and Penny Tompkins.

Interesting stuff! Have a read. Let me know if you use it and it helps you

http://www.cleanlanguage.co.uk/articles/articles/27/1/Self-Deception-Delusion-and-Denial/Page1.html

http://www.cleanlanguage.co.uk/articles/articles/243/1/Learning-to-Act-from-What-You-Know-to-be-True/Page1.html

http://www.cleanlanguage.co.uk/articles/articles/265/1/How-We-Act-From-What-We-Know-To-Be-True/Page1.html


Self Nudging

And one on self nudging…rather than setting goals how can one work to tip the odds in favour of my self achieving something..and incorporate the feedback if it doesn’t work, to increase the likelihood of it working next time.

http://www.cleanlanguage.co.uk/articles/articles/312/1/Self-nudging/Page1.html


Lovely work on Self Compassion by Kristin Neff

Website on self compassion with lots of resources: Kristin Neff

An article on the neurobiology of self compassion By Kristin Neff


Finding Children Sexually Attractive: By Sarah Goode

This booklet is for anyone who finds that they are sexually attracted to children. In it, people talk in their own words about their own experiences and provide advice on how to handle this situation.  I hope you will find this booklet encouraging, helpful and inspiring! Click here to download the booklet “Finding Children Sexually Attractive” Sarah Goode

The Ultimate Guide for Protecting Your Child on the Internet

https://www.vpnmentor.com/blog/the-ultimate-parent-guide-for-child-internet/


ORGANISATIONS THAT OFFER HELP FOR PEOPLE WITH SEXUALLY INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOUR

Respond: Works with people with learning difficulties 

They have a unit that works with young people with learning difficulties or autism, who have sexually harmful behaviours http://www.respond.org.uk/what-we-do/children-and-young-people-sservices/

They also work with adults who have learning difficulties or autism, who display sexually harmful behaviour http://www.respond.org.uk/PDF-Packs/Forensic%20Services%20Leaflet%20Nov%202015.pdf


StopSO: The Specialist Treatment Organisation for the Prevention of Sexual Offending:

A UK wide charitable organisation designed to help sex offenders stop their offending behaviours: by preventing sexual offending through therapy. www.stopso.org.uk