Articles

A Series of Five Articles that Appear in Psychotherapy Excellence:
Tackling Child Sexual Abuse (1/5): Paedosexuality

https://www.pesi.co.uk/Blog/2019/November/Tackling-Child-Sexual-Abuse-(1-5)-Paedosexuality

Tackling Child Sexual Abuse (2/5): The Internet

15th Nov 2019
In the second of five blogs about her work, she discusses the use of the internet in offending.
https://www.pesi.co.uk/Blog/2019/November/Tackling-Child-Sexual-Abuse-(2-5)-The-Internet

Tackling Child Sexual Abuse (3/5): Harmful Sexual Behaviour in Children
Juliet Grayson

In the third of five blogs about her work, she tackles the difficult issues surrounding children who commit a sexual offence.
https://www.pesi.co.uk/Blog/2019/November/Tackling-Child-Sexual-Abuse-(3-5)-Harmful-Sexual-B

Tackling Child Sexual Abuse (4/5): Therapists wanted!

Juliet Grayson
In the fourth of five blogs about her work, she discusses the StopSO approach, and offers pointers for those wanting to practice in this area.https://www.pesi.co.uk/Blog/2019/November/Tackling-Child-Sexual-Abuse-(4-5)-Therapists-wante

The Power Threat Meaning Framework

The Power Threat Meaning Framework (PTMF) can be used as a way of helping people to create more hopeful narratives or stories about their lives and the difficulties they have faced or are still facing, instead of seeing themselves as blameworthy, weak, deficient or ‘mentally ill’.
It highlights and clarifies the links between wider social factors such as poverty, discrimination and inequality, along with traumas such as abuse and violence, and the resulting emotional distress or troubled behaviour, whether it is confusion, fear, despair or troubled or troubling behaviour.
It also shows why those of us who do not have an obvious history of trauma or adversity can still struggle to find a sense of self-worth, meaning and identity
The Framework applies not just to people who have been in contact with the mental health or criminal justice systems, but to all of us. It summarises and integrates a great deal of evidence about the role of various kinds of power in people’s lives, the kinds of threat that misuse of power pose to us and the ways we have learnt to respond to those threats.
In traditional mental health practice, threat responses are sometimes called ‘symptoms’. The Framework looks instead at how we make sense of these difficult experiences and how messages from wider society can increase our feelings of shame, self-blame, isolation, fear and guilt.
The approach of the Framework is summarised in four questions that can apply to individuals, families or social groups:
1. What has happened to you? (How is power operating in your life?)
2. How did it affect you? (What kind of threats does this pose?)
3. What sense did you make of it? (What is the meaning of these situations and experiences to you?)
4. What did you have to do to survive? (What kinds of threat response are you using?)
5. ‘What are your strengths?’ (What access to Power resources do you have?)

6. ‘What is your story?’ (How does all this fit together?)
Created by the British Psychological Society

Download Short Version Here (139 pages)
Download Long Version Here

A link to a whole magazine of 27 articles written on behalf of StopSO for The Psychotherapist.  https://stopso.org.uk/articles-commissioned/

The law about reporting sexual abuse and sexual offences, as it applies to psychotherapists and counsellors.

Law in the UK About Reporting Child Abuse by Juliet Grayson

When autistic people commit sexual crimes

How to write a letter saying sorry for raping someone

This is written by a trauma resolution educator.  Her web page is worth a read if you feel like you’d like to apologise and don’t know where to begin.

She says, “Apologies can’t and won’t automatically heal trauma, betrayal or physiological patterns of danger response. They don’t undo the deeds of the past. But they can lift the weight of shame, guilt, rage and grief. They can act as valves for opening and releasing energy. And that’s worth a lot.”

http://rachaelmaddox.com/sacred-apologies/

 

Date: 2 July 2018: Online Article

Online article in Eastern Daily Press. “Norfolk’s chief constable has called for a new approach to the treatment of paedophiles.”   Click here to read the full article

Date: 2 July 2018: Online Article
Article in Mental Health Today. “Police want therapists to play bigger role confronting sexual offence risks”

StopSO Chair and psychosexual therapist, Juliet Grayson said: “During 2017, almost 800 people asked StopSO for help. Over a third of these people are reaching out for help before an offence has been committed.”

“Twenty percent are young adults, mostly students, or people on low income who are unable to afford therapy. StopSO needs funding to be able to offer free or subsidised therapy to clients and protect children from harmful sexual behaviour.”

“Reports of child sexual abuse continue to rise year on year and we have to do everything we can to meet the challenge.”

Click here to read the full article

Date: 17 May  2018: Online Article
StopSO was featured on the Male Psychology Network, promoting the wellbeing of men and boys
Click here to read the full article   

Date: 9 May  2018: Online Article
Article on BBC Wales Live by Jenny Rees, titled “Arrests of online sex offenders by Welsh police ‘double’ “.  Juliet Grayson, one of the founders of StopSO, says not enough attention is given to rehabilitating sex offenders.

 

Date: 12 February  2018: Online Article
Article in Mental Health Today. ‘Most mental health professionals have worked with someone who has experienced sexual abuse as a child, but not many have worked with someone who is experiencing sexual desires for children that they wish not to act on. We talk to Juliet Grayson, Director of StopSo, about how to reduce sexual abuse by providing therapy for potential sex offenders’.
Click here to read the full article

Date: 7 February  2018: Online Article
Article in Mental Health Today. ‘Charity StopSO is calling for adequate funding to provide therapy in the community for those who feel at potential risk of committing a sexual offence.’
Click here to read the full article

Date: 11 September 2017: Online article
Online BBC Article By Catherine Burns, BBC Victoria Derbyshire programme. “The young paedophiles who say they don’t abuse children”.  Click here to read the full article

**Date: 22 June 2017: Online article
A StopSO therapist, Julie Newberry, wrote: “Viewing Child Abuse Images: Paedophile or Addicted to Porn?” for welldoing.org.  Julie explains that some people who become addicted to porn will find themselves looking at child abuse images.  She also looks at some of the consequences of this.
Click here to read the whole article

Date: 14th June 2017: Online Article
Article in I,SCIENCE by Bruno Martin titled Treating Child Abuse And Paedophilia.  He writes how ‘Paedophile is not a synonym for child molester. While abusing children is a choice, suffering from sexual attraction towards children is not. Many paedophiles are simply born that way, and struggle with their sexual desire throughout their adult lives. Some give in to the desire, and offend, while others never harm children. Drawing this distinction is important for the prevention of child abuse—and recent research has shown that, if you want to understand their behaviour, you need to start with their brains.’
Click here to read the full article

Date: 5th May 2017: Online Newspaper Article
Article in Mail Online by Siofra Brennan about online addiction leading men to view indecent images of children as they seek out more extreme material
Click here to read the full article

Date: 6th March 2017: Online Newspaper Article
i News online Interview by Serina Sandhu.  “The therapist who treats paedophiles and the compassion she feels.”   Juliet Grayson listens to stories that many seasoned therapists would find challenging. Her role is to provide counselling to people who have been convicted of child abuse but want to be rehabilitated.
Click here to read

Date: 6th March 2017: Article
Article written by Juliet Grayson, “Thoughts on mandatory reporting” UKCP Issue 65, Spring 2017. At the end of last year the government held a consultation called “Reporting and acting on child abuse and neglect” to investigate mandatory reporting and a duty to act for professionals.
Click here to read

Date: 6th March 2017: Online Newspaper Article
Article published on 6 march 2017 in The Sun Online by Brittany Vonow about prevention rather than shaming or prison
Click here to read

Interview With A Female Paedophile

Podcast: Interview with non-contact female pedophile named ‘Emma’
http://thepreventionpodcast.com/interview-with-female-anti-contact-pedophile-emma
Transcript here https://aboutpedophilia.com/2018/09/11/prevention-podcast-transcript-emma-female-non-offending-pedophile/

Information for keeping your children safe online

https://www.bestvpnrating.com/guide-children-privacy

A Strange and Terrible Unicorn: The Musings of a Non-Offending Female Pedophile: An Article

A Strange and Terrible Unicorn

Help Wanted: Podcast

There’s one group of people that is universally tarred and feathered in the United States and most of the world. We never hear from them, because they can’t identify themselves without putting their livelihoods and reputations at risk. That group is pedophiles. It turns out lots of them desperately want help, but because it’s so hard to talk about their situation it’s almost impossible for them to find it. Reporter Luke Malone spent a year and a half talking to people in this situation, and he has this story about one of them. (27 minutes)

You’re 16. You’re a Pedophile. You Don’t Want to Hurt Anyone. What Do You Do Now?

Read the article by Luke Malone here: https://medium.com/matter/youre-16-youre-a-pedophile-you-dont-want-to-hurt-anyone-what-do-you-do-now-e11ce4b88bdb

What Happens When a Paedophile Hunter Catches Your Dad?  Podcast

Across the country networks of so-called paedophile hunters are working to catch child sex offenders. They pose as boys and girls online, arranging to meet with men and then circulating videos of these “stings” online. Around 150 charges have been brought because of their work, but the naming and shaming extends to innocent families too. Andy Smythe and Catrin Nye from the Victoria Derbyshire Programme tell us the story of a paedophile hunter and the daughter of a man who was caught.  Click here to listen to the podcast 

Assessing children and families affected by individuals viewing child sexual abuse images on the Internet

The London Safeguarding Children Board have created a good document for assessing children and families.  http://hillingdonchildcare.proceduresonline.com/pdfs/ch_sex_img_internet.pdf

A Framework for Categorizing Problematic Sexual Behavior

This was chosen as “Article of the Year” for the journal Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity. It is now freely available at https://tandfonline.com/…/full/10.1080/10720162.2017.1394947 or   Download it here

Failing the Vulnerable: Autistic people being let down by our criminal justice system

Despite receiving guidance, many of the judiciary and magistracy do not have a basic understanding of autism spectrum disorder, which is a developmental condition that cannot be treated or improved by medication. It is usually accompanied by common traits such as social anxiety leading to isolation, obsessional behaviour and often severe depression.  To read more click this link
https://www.lawgazette.co.uk/commentary-and-opinion/failing-the-vulnerable/5059700.article
Brain Science and The Law: From the Brain Culture: Neuroscience and Society series on Radio 4

Matthew Taylor asks if the ability to scan brains will transform our system of criminal justice.  He meets the doctor who operated on a paedophile’s brain and seemingly “cured” him.  He explores how studies of the brains of criminal psychopaths are changing our understanding of whether anti-social behaviour is “hard-wired” in the brain.  These ideas raise the controversial question of a new legal edefence “my brain made me do it.”  Should this be accepted in court?  These studies have also inspired pioneering work with young children tackling brain-based bad behaviour, with remarkable new techniques.  Matthew also explores the frontiers of a transformative, but potentially frightening, new technology: the brain scanner in the courtroom.  He looks at how scans have been used to test memories and evidence in courts so far – including in a case of murder.  Producer Mukul Devichand.  Broadcast 2011.  30 minutes

Attending Juliet’s Group: The Slippery Slope Group: A New Participant’s Experience

I really did not know what to expect as I pulled into the car park outside the hall for my first ‘Slippery Slope’ therapeutic group session with Juliet Grayson, Chair of STOPSO (Specialist Treatment Organisation for the Prevention of Sexual Offending).  How many people would be in the group? Why were they there? What would the ‘structure’ (what they call a client session) be like and how would I cope? Would I be accepted or rejected by my fellow group members? Since the police had called on me a few weeks before I had been on a rollercoaster, learning the true meaning of the terms ‘acceptance’ and ‘rejection’ – and how painful the latter can be. So many questions and I was admittedly more scared than curious. But I took a deep breath and walked in.  Click here to read

An Insider’s View:  What happened in the prison SOTP groups I undertook and how the “Hot Seat” caused stress and fear

Someone who was imprisoned for a sexual offence has anonymously written up his experience of SOTP groups, and prison.  He also, at the end, talks about the different experience he has had from one-to-one therapy.  It is a powerful, and shocking, read.  Click here to read

Date: 28th February 2017: Online Newspaper Article

An article published on 28th February 2017 in the Guardian online about helping paedophiles.
Click here to read

**Date: 15th Feb 2017: Newspaper Article including short video

“British charity preventing paedophiles from abusing children faces closure after ‘funding crisis’” in the Sunday Express.
Click here to read

**Date: February 2017: Online Article

Paedophiles need help, not just condemnation. I should know.  Featuring Jack Dawson
Click here to read

Date : February 2017: Magazine article

Fundraising Magazine : Gritty causes need funds just as much as cancer, kids and kittens, says Juliet Grayson, but its a tough act
Click here to read

Date: 19th January 2017: Magazine article

Pick Me Up Magazine: Sex offenders are being offered treatment to stop them offending.
Click here to read

Date: January 2017: Online Article

The Citizen Online: Specialist charity for sex offenders faces closure
Click here to read

**Date: 18 September 2016: Online Blog Article

The Huffington Post: Juliet Grayson, Chair of StopSO. The distinction between a child molester and a paedophile.
Click here to read

**Date: 26th August 2016: Online Blog Article

The Huffington Post : Juliet Grayson, Chair of StopSO.  Preventing the first crime

Click here to read

**Date: 12th April 2015: Online Blog Article

Huffington Post by Dr Sarah Goode: Chemical castration – or Compassion for Paedophiles?
Click here to read

**Date: 24th February 2016: Newspaper Article

The Independent : How a brain tumour gave a man paedophilic tendencies
Click here to read

An Article: The Therapist Who Treats Paedophiles and the Compassion She Feels:

About Juliet Grayson click here to read it.

Date: 11th December 2015: Article

InterCardiff: StopSO UK, An organisation’s efforts towards nipping paedophilia in the bud.
Click here to read

Back to the Root: Healing Potential Sexual Offenders’ Childhood Trauma with Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor

sexual diversity and sexual offending coverby Juliet Grayson. This chapter was originally published in a book called Sexual Diversity and Sexual Offending: Research, Assessment and Clinical Treatment,  edited by Glyn Hudson Allez, published by Karnac in 2014, pp51-274, and is reproduced with the kind permission of Karnac Books.  This is the method that Juliet uses with the Slippery Slope group in South Wales
Click here to read the chapter: Back to the Root: Healing Potential Sexual Offenders’ Childhood Trauma with Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor

Sex Offenders, Pornography and the Workplace,

by Juliet Grayson, published in Counselling at Work, Autumn 2015 Issue 86 pp8-13

sex offenders in the workplace coverClick here to read the article: Sex Offenders, Pornography and the Workplace

Date: July 14th 2015: Article

An article in the Independent about Project Prevention Dunkelfeld, and towards the end they mention the impact of mandatory reporting in the UK In Germany they treat Paedophiles as victims, not offenders.Click here to read.

Working With People Who Commit Sexual Offences and Their Families

by Juliet Grayson: published in The Psychotherapist, Issue 60  Summer 2015 pp11-12
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Click here to read the article: Working With People Who Commit Sexual Offences and Their Families

Know Your Law Quiz:

by Juliet Grayson, published in The Psychotherapist, Issue 60, Summer 2015 p13. This accompanies the article above.
Click here to read: Know Your Law Quiz
Click here to read: The Answers to Quiz

Andrew Smith’s article in June copy of Therapy Today

about Working with Sex Offenders, for therapists. Volume 26 Issue 5 June 2015 Page 10-14

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Letter to the Psychologist. A letter written by Juliet Grayson,  

published in the Psychologist, clarifying the current legal position for a therapist working in private practice (and in the NHS) around issues of mandatory reporting and the law about reporting a client who has committed a sexual offence. The Psychologist: Issue 28.3, March 2015
Click here to read the letter in The Psychologist

Therapists fear mandatory reporting with stop paedophiles seeking help

Press release from StopSO:  Date July 13th 2015 After PM interview

Cash seized from criminals will help stop child sexual abuse:  

Date: 14 January 2015 Gwent Police and Crime Commissioner, Ian Johnston, gave money to subsidise StopSO (to provide specialist training for therapists and to subsidise therapy for sex offenders who cannot afford to pay for themselves), said: “Since being elected into office I have focussed strongly on working with numerous partners in the community such as StopSO on tackling crime and its root causes. Projects such as this one, which have rehabilitative qualities at their core, play a vital role in supporting offenders to break free from the cycle of reoffending. It’s important to note that every £1 invested in interventions saves £33 in tackling crime overall and these partnerships and initiatives which I fund and support assist me in developing approaches which ensure people in Gwent are less affected by crime.”


Psychological help for paedophiles reduces the numbers who go on to abuse children

Date: 8th December 2014  Press Release